Why are most of the successful people lonely?
Sometimes, we can notice how much people are lonely, without any friends and support. As a rule, it is persons which have high-minded ambitions and strive for something, we could notice it when we were at school, pupils usually call such teenagers ‘’ nerds’’. Such types of people we can meet in every environment of our life, for instance, in sport, school or at work, wherever we are. And do you think they like loneliness? Of course no, just a long time ago yet, some people got used to hating nerds and ambitious persons, the truth is that there are only two ways to get out of the scorn and other unpleasant things: the first way is to expose to any disdaining and mocking and become weak or the second way is to not care of people’s opinions and go on moving forward, those persons choosing the second way obligatory cut the mustard in the field they are developing in. Many successful people chose this way, their principle was simple, a deal they have passion for is one of the most valuable things in their life, not friends, and in spite of any obstacles, they would be ahead of the game in their sphere. On my example, studying at sport school, I wanted to be a footballer like many of my command partners did, but when we had our last year of study before graduation, I figured out that it is time to not dream about a football career, but about what it was going to be further, after graduation. All the more so I wasn’t good enough at football compared to my partners. So I decided to hit the books while almost all my command partners did emphasis on football and were dreaming only over the professional football career, not education, they didn’t practically take books in their hands. And despite on I was abused, and disdained for it, after graduation, I found out that it was the right decision because I was able to go to the perspective university and faculty but most of despising me were not able to. Moreover, I was lonely because then there were practically no like-minded people for me. That’s how any disdains to end up a failure. So, don’t be on the side of contempt, be on the side of the road to your dream, as it is said: ‘’ stick your nose into smart books, and not into other people’s lives!’’.
Can I recommend you to stay lonely to be successful? It depends on your character and your stress resistance. The best variant you can choose is finding a correct surrounding of people, but it is not easy, but trying it is worth it; but if you are not ready for this variant, you can stay alone for some time, there is no awful in this because you know for what you are doing it, any way you would find any friends in the future when the appropriate time comes. On my example, when I was an adolescent, I was always alone, there were no friends and even no one person can’t approach me and try to create a conversation with me, not boys, not girls despite on I was cute, I seemed too hard and strange for them, but on the fact, I am very polite and kind, just a little shy. Already then, I decided for myself that I should stay alone for 5 or more years, as it turned out, it was the right decision. I can’t say that I wasn’t trying to make friends, there was some period when attempts for it were, but, it ended badly for me.
But later I felt that I needed some support, what did I do? I entered Youtube and found an experienced mentor for getting success where I was developing, it was so useful so that I needed no friends because this virtual and free mentor became my best friend, and I still regularly watch his videos consuming useful material and writing down pieces of advice for myself. You can go this way too, but I repeat, only you decide to be lonely or with friends.
